Pills without a plan… is not a plan. The best plan for us and for our child is to equip him with the tools to handle and overcome challenges. That meant heavy-duty structure, not medication.
when I received some very interesting words regarding when and how I was to have children, I have to wonder if God was “just checking” to see if I was serious before granting my wish to start a family by adoption. Thank God they were, and still are, wrong.
PTSD can manifest in many ways, one being nightmares. For my foster son, it seems he suffered from reliving the same scenario repeatedly. Here’s what we experienced and a few solutions we tried. Focus on the healing, love them as-is, and stay present, even when they don’t.
There were no lights in the closet. He thought spiders were crawling on him. The door was always locked. Still, he always checked it …just in case.
Prior to living with us, he had been in 7 different “families.” No wonder it took so long to get to know him! A sense of self is patterned after those we are around and identify with. I’m so glad he chose to identify with us!
In a matter of months, this child we were caring for had received nine diagnosis’ with three more to be confirmed or ruled out. Be warned. This is not an unusual situation to run into.
Despite some extraordinary events and discoveries, we accepted this boy from foster care. Day after day we accepted him. And we evolved from strangers to parents because of this. We are blessed to have done so. *A special poem for foster/adoptive parents.*