After months of acclimating to our foster son and trying to help with his emotional preparations for the upcoming adoption, we were at a point of acceptance. Who he was and who he wanted to be, were at odds, however.
Category: Parenting
A big challenge we have on our special needs journey is that many people on the spectrum struggle with linking “intention and outcome when engaged in moral reasoning.” This means logic-based consequences don’t work at a foundational level.
He didn’t fit into any boxes. Not ours, nor those in our community. So, we tossed out our prior expectations and started making new ones. Realistic ones. Succeeding in this new “woke” era would mean being flexible and compassionate—never assuming one’s outer expression could limit or otherwise define their inner potential.
I’m pleased to announce that my memoir is now under agent/publisher review! Titles are pending, but convey my heart’s desire to share with readers an authentic view inside adoption from foster care. Want to look inside or vote for a cover?
Ohmygosh, I know I have been at the grind writing for “everyone else” and neglecting my own blog, but take a breath because it’s going to be okay. It’s going to be great, actually.
Pills without a plan… is not a plan. The best plan for us and for our child is to equip him with the tools to handle and overcome challenges. That meant heavy-duty structure, not medication.
PTSD can manifest in many ways, one being nightmares. For my foster son, it seems he suffered from reliving the same scenario repeatedly. Here’s what we experienced and a few solutions we tried. Focus on the healing, love them as-is, and stay present, even when they don’t.
There were no lights in the closet. He thought spiders were crawling on him. The door was always locked. Still, he always checked it …just in case.
Judge calls adoption memoir “realism gold.” Scoring 5 out of 5 in every category, Janelle Molony’s memoir shines bright this holiday season.
Prior to living with us, he had been in 7 different “families.” No wonder it took so long to get to know him! A sense of self is patterned after those we are around and identify with. I’m so glad he chose to identify with us!