Prior to living with us, he had been in 7 different “families.” No wonder it took so long to get to know him! A sense of self is patterned after those we are around and identify with. I’m so glad he chose to identify with us!
The goal is to assist with “rewiring” the pathways towards social connections and therefore, the ability to form a healthy relationship. I pray that one day my son’s spirit will be restored and he will see with open eyes that I am not the person who hurt him.
I worry about the meltdowns he has. I wonder if he’ll end up on the 5 o’clock news one day. Will love be enough to conquer all?
With the release of the movie “Instant Family,” we (the foster-adoptive community) are getting some important media attention. While I appreciate that, it’s important to remember that the trauma behind leaving one’s first family is deep and painful. It also doesn’t end on adoption day. A child’s writing reveals a lot this holiday season.
I recently caught up with a good friend and regaled her with stories of “how things are going” in my adoptive home. Well… first came ….